“Cure for pain is in the pain.” Rumi
You don’t often see pain and positive in one sentence. We have been taught for too long and too often that pain is bad, negative, unwanted. No one wants to be in pain, that’s for sure and I would have never encouraged you to seek pain. But here is the deal. Life isn’t only about sunshine and rainbow. Sometimes it gets tough and unpleasant. What do you do then?
My interest in pain began the moment when I understood that it may destroy or transform people’s lives.
In this article, I want to share with you positive side of pain, the strength, and courage which comes with it. This is often overlooked by many because of the status it has among society. Don’t misunderstand me. I don’t believe that we should live in pain. But I am certain we need to learn how to work with it better when it shows up.
These are 6 positive emotions I have found in pain and have been using them since the day one.
1. Desire for change
Pain causes change. I bet you already know that. So, think about it. When you’re at the place in your life which doesn’t match the life you actually desire, you feel discomfort. Do you want to feel this way? Of course not, no one does. The feeling of dissatisfaction is what pushes you, it challenges you to take a step, to try unknown.
Pain creates desire for a better life. You are more likely to act when you feel growing pain than when you feel comfort. It’s about getting fed up and fired up at the same time. By listening to this pain, you’ll begin to understand that you can eliminate it only by changing your current situation.
2. Kick-Ass Attitude
With desire comes strength. Your fed up moment which may seem negative at first, will become a fuel afterward. It’s the moment when all those doubts and fear just die because the pain of living the life you don’t want becomes your biggest inspiration.
Kick-ass attitude doesn’t mean anger or arrogance. It means confidence and inner drive. It’s breaking point when you finally open your eyes and see the world as it is – full of opportunities, positive things, and endless growth. This empowered attitude will drive you and give you every reason to level up.
3. Unstoppable growth
For many years I looked back and wondered, “Why did I have to go through this? Why life seems so tough and difficult?” By having this mindset, I never got an answer. I was searching for fish in the desert.
After I read the first book from Tony Robbins “Awaken the giant within”, everything started to make sense. The way he described pain and pleasure was one of the simplest and most effective information I’ve ever received. Not because it was something new in the world, but because it changed my perspective and allowed me to see beyond my hardships.
Therefore, I took a second look on my past. It became clear that 99% of the time, my biggest breakthrough came from the biggest pain. And 99% of the time, it was a positive breakthrough. Every pain serves a purpose, it’s a teacher and a lesson. What you consider the worst thing in your life may become the most valuable tool for your personal growth.
If you are going through some tough times right now, remember this – you are in the process of a tremendous growth. It may be hard to see it now since you are vulnerable and emotional. But later on, when you look back, you will be thankful for every hardship life has prepared for you.
4. Empathy towards others
By learning how to deal with your pain in a healthy way, you’ll develop a deep sense of empathy. Being able to understand people’s emotions is one of the most powerful skills you can have.
The way how you learn to deal with pain can inspire others. If you’ve been through a divorce, you can support those who go through the same thing. If you lost a loved one, you can be someone’s best bud when the same thing happens to them. If you struggled financially but worked hard and changed your situation, you can teach others how to do it as well because you understand what they feel and what they want.
The difference you can make in one person’s life can change lives of hundreds, if not thousands of people all around the world.
5. The mindset of “Not giving a F**k”
It’s hard to find your inner greatness if all you do is focusing on others perception of who you should be. Screw ’em, follow your heart! It really is that simple.
The attitude of not giving a fuck is the best self-service and the only way to feel free.
People pleasing is painful. Trying to make everyone happy is exhausting.
Once you understand your pains and own them, you won’t waste your time on people’s opinion and judgment because there are going to be more important goals.
6. Unbeatable mental strength
It’s difficult to see benefits in pain when you feel it. All you want is to feel good. And eventually, you will. Nothing lasts forever.
Once this moment, day, week or a month passes, the empowerment which comes after has no price tag. I bet that when you look back on your life, on any hardship, you’ll agree with me that the strength and the lesson were both worth it.
You want pleasure, good things and happiness. But how can you recognize the good if you don’t experience the bad?
I don’t want you to live in pain. What I want you to learn is how to listen to it and work with it. These 6 positive emotions I have listed for you above are only a fraction of everything empowering that comes after pain.
It’s not about living without any struggles or pains. Life is about knowing how to handle then and deal with them when they show up.
What is the most positive thing you have gained from pain? Leave a comment below.